The following is a "tip sheet" I sent to my dad to encourage him to use a concierge:
( please refer to the post above for clarification on working with a concierge/assistant)

Using your concierge does a couple things…. Anytime you are feeling like YOU have to do everything yourself you will feel anxiety, stress and be much less productive because you are limiting possibilities.  By believing you have help and assistance you are allowing support from an inexhaustible, all powerful source that wants to work for you.  You also get out of the way!  If help and support is trying to come to you but you keep putting out there in your thoughts that you have to do everything yourself you are blocking your good. Allow yourself to receive it. Knowing that you are not responsible for everything also feels better which allows you to be in a better place where better events can come to you.  If you can have fun with it you will feel even that much better and allow things to play out in an even better way.  This is what usually happens.  The key is faith.  Once you give your concierge a task you have to stop thinking about it.  Assume it is done at least for the moment and just keep moving along. Expect it to be done…as much as you can.  The more you use it the more faith and confidence you will have.

Some tips to using your concierge…

         Stay out of  how to do anything.  They are the pro you only have to be clear on what you want.  If you tell them how to do it you are in the way and keeping them from wowing you.



Tell them what you want and that you want all the details taken care of under grace and in aperfect way.  You are traveling VIP you should not have to worry about any details. That is their job.

If you  find yourself worrying about the outcome of something you have assigned remind yourself that your world class concierge is taking care of all the details and drop it from your mind. My concierge gets real bitchy when I keep checking in to see how things are coming. He knows his job and does it well and my nagging is only keeping him from it. You can’t delegate and then micromanage. Your job is to remain clear on what you want and stay out of the way.

Try not to sabotage them.  For example if you have a meeting with people you normally find toxic and challenging give the meeting to the concierge.  Make sure they give you  an advantage and security so no one can give you any trouble.  Be sure they are clear on what you want ( not what you don’t want) to accomplish in the meeting.

Don’t be afraid to ask for things that don’t seem possible.  Dream big.  Now before you go into the meeting be sure to exercise some faith and not expect the same experience you have had in the past.  Are you bracing yourself for another war? You get what you expect. If you do that you are in the way again and basically asking for what you don’t want.

Since you are working with some scary kids I will share one more little trick that I’ve discovered.  (As you know for the past couple years I’ve had teenage daughters. ) Keep reminding God ( The Universe) that you are blessed with these children that you enjoy everyday.  See something that freaks you out? Say to yourself… “that looks like something heinous and worrysome but I know that these kids are blessings that I enjoy everyday.” Feels a little like denial but it works. 

Last thing.  Always begin with gratitude.  By saying thank you,  you are saying that you have already received.  This is the same as all those bible passages that remind you to pray as if you’ve already received.  Some examples…

         “ Thank you God ( Universe ) ( Insert Concierge name here) that these children are blessings that I enjoy everyday.”

         “Thank you (             ) for working out the details of my job so that I am supporting management in a powerful and inspiring way, enjoying what I do, and all the while being handsomely compensated…under grace and in a perfect way.

It’s simple and it works.

Not sure if I told you this….When (my husband) was dealing with many crappy partners all at once , our tendency was to want to retaliate and screw these people over to get them back for the stuff they were doing to us.  Instead we would stop and demand out loud “ Justice and Resolution!”  and give it to God (Universe, Consierge) to take care of.  Not always easy when you want to kick some ass! When (my husband) got the deal that basically freed us from all of these people and situations in one fell swoop, he was working primarily with a German guy whose name was pronounced YOOSTES.  When the deal was almost finalized I saw his name in writing….

Justus.  Our prayers were answered in a great way that we would have never been able to come up ourselves.  Through JUSTICE/JUSTUS!  Literally.  So COOL! So you don’t even have to fight your battles. “ Justice and Resolution” rallies the troops,  keeps you out of combat, and pays off in a big wayJ

        
You can do anything, but not everything
-David Allen
 
 
This was my first thought coming off of a melt down about my house not staying clean.  There are 5 other people and a dog also living here so I can't just wave a magic wand and make it fabulous.....or can I? B.S!! I thought. I can ask for what ever I want and I want a self cleaning house. I also want kids and a husband who are neatnicks by nature.  That is what I started to declare and give thanks for two weeks ago.  Thank you for my self-cleaning, self- maintaining house that rejuvenates itself.  Thank you that my kids and husband are nicknicks and CHOOSE to keep their living areas clean, neat and orderly....
Do you know that in the last two days two of my messiest kids have completely cleaned and rearranged their rooms and closets al on their own!  They even lugged the vacuum upstairs and argued over who was using it and when! I love this alternate universe.  The real impressive detail is that while I was gone this morning my husband actually put his dirty laundry in the laundry BASKET! I wasn't sure he even knew what those plastic rectangles were for.  So I am telling you miracles can happen. You just have to ask for them and you certainly can ask God for a self cleaning house and get it. My only problem now is deciding what else to ask for next.  So many miracles so little time :))))

"I am realistic- I expect miracles."
Wayne Dyer
 
 

Setting up your day before you even get out of bed is key in creating the life that YOU want.  When I wake up and before my mind can start wandering I seize control and start directing my mind to focus on what I want my life to be. To get going I say thank you in advance for a great day.  For all of the details of the day being taken care of under grace and in a magnificent ( bump of your adjectives!) way.  Thank you that great things are happening for us today.  I find it easier to have a core routine that starts you off and then you can build and add around it as your needs and desires shift and change.  My core is visualizing ( I am very visual)  my husband and I together in a hug.  The hug is a nice one.  I add vivid details and senses to make the visual more powerful.  I feel him, his breath, his skin and warmth, I smell him.  Then I send love to him and receive it in return.  From there I add the rest of my family with the understanding that anyone else related receives the trickle down of our blessings.  Do this to avoid feeling like you have to include everyone in your entire family, cousins, second cousins, friends of the family.... Everyone is raised by relation.  Then I steep us all in God's greatness and perfection like a giant teabag.  I see us all shimmering in every molecule of our being.  We are healthy, whole strong, provided for, protected and supported.  Everyone then receives a shining crown of the highest favor.  This crown covers favor of all kinds.  Health, wealth, success, love, friendship...everything.  Because I love luxury and  to feel special I recently added a VIP all access pass that looks like a glowing, shimmering backstage pass to us all.  This pass insures preferential treatment, access to places and people most others can;t get to.  Ease in life is guaranteed.  The luxury spills out onto us and we are universally spoiled like young rock stars.  I have a couple great stories that have come about since I added the VIP pass. I will share of them in a letter post.  Let me just say that it works! This is my core.  From here I add things like... we are blessed by each other and everyone we come into contact with and visa versa. We are surrounded by people who have a spirit of excellence, who support us, that we can rely on.  That we have a spirit of excellence and we are successful,responsible, capable, gifted people who run with purpose in every step.  I give thanks for the explosive blessings of overflowing abundance ( picture a giant volcanic plume only this one is spewing cash everywhere!)  That there is always more than plenty ( notice I didn't say more than enough...plenty feels so much better!) As you can see this can go on and on.  I spend about 15 min before I get out of bed doing this then get out with forced enthusiasm as I am not typically a morning person. Wooo! Here we go great day! Something great is happening for me today! I steal the motto from Friday Night Lights and make it my own. Clear minds, full hearts, can't lose!!

Our intention creates our reality
Wayne Dyer



 
 
I have to fess up to a wonderful pastime that I LOVE! I have become an obsessive treasure planter.  I  hijacked some of the ideas of DORK--Doers Of Random Kindness, Pam Grout in her E cubed book, and the website moreloveletter.com.  I have always loved paying a toll for the person behind me in line.  Now that there are toll passes that rarely happens.  I still enjoy treating the person behind me in the drive thru line at Starbucks, McDonalds, Dairy Queen, etc... Always a thrill! A newer idea I found on the app Planet Good is to go into a candy place and leave money for the next 5 or so people.  LOVE doing that!!! All that is fun but I now sneak around planting treasure.  It's an addiction! I used to find stickers around town that said YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.  I know where they are now and make it a habit to see them, park in front of them and sit by them.  Hey, who doesn't like being told they are beautiful? :)  I looked this up too.  The silver sticker bandits were featured on Oprah a while back and it is a thing. Nice! I decided I would start my own thing.  I had stickers, magnets and wooden nickels made that say SOMETHING GREAT IS HAPPENING FOR YOU TODAY!.  I plant them all over wherever I go.  I also make sure to plant at least 4 love letters a week all complete abundant attracting bills ( $5, $10 or $20 per envelope) in random places, but never the same place twice.  The love letters are reminders of how great the person who finds it is and of the abundant, friendly nature of the universe. I like to adda great quote and a reminder to pass it on. 
 I have always loved hiding the easter eggs and baskets at Easter.  I loved the hiding of the Elves at Christmas when the kids were little.  I still have a tiny rubber Santa I plant all over the house for kids to find.  Who doesn't love finding the beanie in Trader Joes? It is the greatest! I grew up with an amazing grandfather who loved to fill my imagination full of fairy's. He was always seeing something I didn't.  A fairy on the back of a bird, hiding in the flower pot, even catching one in a closed shoe box. ( he tied a string to it and shook the box with the string completely dazzling me with the catch. I ate it up.  I was always on the lookout for the the invisible world of the fairy's.  I appreciate so much his spirit of play and all he did to make my world such an awe inspiring, magical place. I am sure that this hidden world is why I love recreating it in small ways with my own kids, and why I am so hooked on doing this now.  I found great arrow magnets and use them to stick my love notes on gas pumps, signs, ATM machines.  They are a great touch. If you are looking for a pick me up try it! It is a wonderful tool to get to a better mental space. It gets your creative juices flowing and raises you up to receiving great things in return.  You are sewing seeds for your own blessings and abundance.  I think that sounds like a win/ win.  It feels great.  


Fairy dust is like love,
it creates magic whenever
you give it away
*
 
 


Have you ever noticed yourself believing this around the people you love? This fear based thinking is easy to get into to. You love these people so you don't want to lose them. Right here you are starting out believing in lack and loss and also being selfish rather than loving. Right? You are saying " I don't want to experience the loss of you." Doesn't sound as selfless as you think it to be when you in the throes of it does it? Ha! 
I know I fell into this behavior when I had my children.  I believed for whatever reason that if I wasn’t fretting and clucking around me kids I was not a good Mom.  I think this is a very collective mindset with the whole of the planet.  Are my kids warm enough? Do they have a hat, gloves, parka, boots, and facemask and 12 layers when they go out? The more over the top and protective I was the better I thought I was doing.  Meanwhile I was driving my kids crazy. Not only was I a pest and a nag( more requirements from my former mom manual) but I was also putting out many what if’s and literally rendering my kids powerless over any weather conditions, nutritional imperfections,  illnesses that were passing through and countless feak accidents that can happen to children.  What a  train wreck! This thinking caused me to be very anxious and powerless myself let alone what I as causing them to fell and believe.   Since I see this as an old norm for mothers I get why the mother’s little helper was also a norm.  This mindset makes you a neurotic basket case! No wonder these mom’s in the fifties had a morning Valium and a martini at the tail end of daylight each day.  It is no accident that when you see kids that are overly coddled and protected by their parents they often turn out to be weak, fearful, fragile, inept adults.  If you are constantly putting out that your child cannot handle any adversity, how do they have a chance? They then adopt that same mindset, not knowing any better, and perpetuate the fear and distrust of the world and the concept of their powerlessness.  As adults it then becomes likely that they will retreat into your basement bomb shelter to play video games and nap surfacing only long enough to have a healthy meal, the right vitamin cocktail and a warm bath ( all made lovingly by you).  Of course I am exaggerating to prove my point, but not by much. 

I still catch myself falling in to this habit.  My 18 year old is going off on her first trip by herself.  Since she will be flying alone I keep catching myself almost trying to worry about her to show him how much I love her.  What is that??? I know that we have flown countless times to big cities all over and never had anything close to a bad experience.  I also know she is not only intelligent, but also very wise and resourceful, perhaps even more so than myself.  It is almost like I feel the need to put on the show to let her know how much she means to me.  If I don’t cry….she will be disappointed and think that I don’t love her.  UGH! I know better! I choose ( and I am saying this as much for myself as for the sake of explanation) to know that she has favor and grace.  I am even going to use my favorite visual and dunk her like a life-sized teabag into favor and grace thus infusing her very essence with an abundance of greatness.  It might seem over the top but it feels so much better and if I am going to have a tendency to be over the top let it be in the right direction.  This change in thinking also takes me out of any “what if” stories I might create and takes care of all of the details…. fabulously!!

Now, this worry+fussing=love equation does not apply only to having children.  This can happen with friends, significant others, parents, pets.. Nothing is off limits.  This martyr scented crown can be applied to any situation.  I have even caught myself at the grocery store getting into a worry tangle over the checker who was going to home alone with a large winter storm approaching.  I wanted her to know I just didn’t feel good knowing she was by herself and wanted her to have my number in case something happened and she needed assistance.  I was going to suffer, fret and worry FOR her even if she wasn’t. Yuck.  Martyr queen.  See how much I care about you? See what a nice person I am? I could see she was not comfortable with this exchange. Who would be? I am not saying don’t have compassion for people.  I am not advising against helping and giving charitable gifts.  Simply do it out of the knowing that this person has grace and favor.  Send them the blessing of seeing them blessed with the abundance of all that is good in life instead of buying into the story of them being a victim of it.  Everybody wins this way. 

I am going to choose to send my beautiful, very capable daughter off on her trip with grace and favor. She will know that she will be missed and that I am proud of her maturity and independence. I will wish for her: joy, love, inspiration and fun along the way and welcome her back with a great big hug and smooch.  



When You focus on being a blessing, God makes sure you are always
blessed in abundance.
Joel Osteen



 
 


I had a friend a couple years ago who was very good at not letting me settle for less from myself.  Also, this friend was great at busting me when I would attempt to play the poor me card. Many people in your life can be encouraging and uplifting, but this was different.

You know when you are in a funk and you are so in it you really have no awareness of how pathetic/bitchy you are being? Nor do you really care.  I would be there.  I would be there and be getting really into it.  Unfortunately, I will admit that I had a tendency to enjoy these bouts with the excuse that something outside of me caused it and I was powerless to change it. This was the story I told myself and anyone else who was interested enough to confront me or comfort me. I think if we are all honest with ourselves this is the root story behind any negative emotion.  I am powerless.  Then the follow up story is “poor me” or “horrible you/them/life”. Boo hoo.  It’s pretty sick to get enjoyment from this self inflicted melodrama, but I am sure I am not the only person who does this.  I think we all have witnessed this behavior in our ourselves or others. Right?  That is where this friend comes in.  I would be smack in the middle of a tirade of bitching or nagging and instead of getting angry and entering the Wacky Shack of negativity and engaging or getting defensive they would say with a smile…

“Now, why do you want to be that way?” Voila! Just that one line would immediately snap me out of my story and into the realization that I was making the CHOICE to act that way. Hilarious!  Once I had that truth pointed out to me it was almost impossible to go back to the negativity. POOF! It’s gone. Not only is it gone…humor has taken it’s place. GENIUS!  The  key to this genius is being able to remain disconnected from the b.s. when confronted with it.  Knowing the negative emotions and stories and events are not real.   It is a huge gift to the person you save from themselves.  Seeing the reality of the other person being all good or all GOD despite what is happening and allowing them to see it. This one line is like a supercharged dose of  years of therapy that can be instantaneously delivered with a smile and guaranteed results. I feel like I should market this line and bottle it up.  I could advertise it on the AOL page with the teaser… Psychologists and Psychiatrists everywhere don’t want you to see this new, instant, at home remedy for happiness! Ha! So try it.  Don’t doubt it. Just because it’s simple doesn’t mean it’s not effective. Why do you be like that? :)

 
 


Years ago I was in a bad mental and physical place.  I was postpartum and feeling depressed and run down. I had recently started to explore different areas of holistic remedies and therapies and even though they seemed promising, I found myself feeling worse and worse.  I had begun to explore the power of my thoughts and beliefs and it was terrifying me.  I thought I had to be vigilant with what went through my mind and any stray negative thought could send me into doom and ruin.  It was starting to feel like an endless game of space invaders that I could not win.  The more reading and researching I did, the more fearful I got.  I got to where I didn’t want to do anything but stay home and guard or cast away my thoughts and research how else to survive this horrible planet.  I felt crazy to say the least.  I can see now that I was constantly focused on what was wrong.  I was asking myself day and night…”what is wrong with me?”  So of course the universe responded with a never ending string of things that were wrong with me.  Everything I put out to the ethers was coming from an assumption that I needed to heal something about myself.  So…I was given countless things to heal.  I was a problem, a victim, a martyr and a wreck!

I remember having a very vivid dream at the time.  In the dream I was all alone in a car that had three rows of seats.  I was in the very last row of seats sitting against the window curled up into a ball pouring over my laptop and singing a little to myself.  The car was not running and sitting off the road in the woods. It was dark all around and inside the car.  Suddenly a police officer walked up to my window and shined a flashlight on me as if to say “ what are doing out here? What the hell are you doing IN there?” Then I woke up.  Creepy right? Especially the singing,  like something out of an R rated horror movie about the demented. I got it.  Not only was I not driving the car, nobody was driving the car.  The car was turned off and not even on or near the road.  Not only that but I wasn’t even aware of these things.  I was lost in my thoughts and unconsciously disconnected from everything and everyone.  I had become paralyzed by my fears and my world was becoming smaller and smaller while I went nowhere and did nothing.   All the while I was researching how to heal and improve myself and my life. I had gotten caught up in waging a war against this concept of a subconscious that rules and overpowers all good at every turn; a hidden and constant battle against some force constantly working against me.  YUCK!

Recently, I had another dream that was just as vivid.  My family and I were traveling around to great exciting places with a bunch of friends in a tour bus.  It was a very luxe and spacious tour bus.  At the back of the bus were two chairs perched high above  the other seats with controls for virtually any indulgence you could think of.  My husband and I each were relaxing in one the grand high lounge chairs.  It occurred to me that we were speeding along the highway and maybe it wasn’t safe for me to completely check out. I was facing the back of the bus, unable to even see the road and not even conscious of what the driver was doing.  Was I safe? Do I need to be managing this trip? Am I being irresponsible in just enjoying the ride with no accountability to our safety? I looked into my personal rear view mirror that allowed me to see clearly the driver of the bus. He appeared confident, alert and professional.  He had his directions, knew what to do and where to go.  He knew he was doing a great job and was determined to give us a wonderful, VIP experience. Just as I decided to check up on him to see if I could trust him at the helm we turned gently off the road.  The bus slowed smoothly and the driver began to back the huge bus expertly into a hangar style garage with just an inch or two to spare on each side of the bus.  I could see he was not worried or shaken by the harrowing task of maneuvering into the tight space.  We arrived magnificently and were immediately met by a staff of people eager to wisk us off to our next amusement.  We all exited the bus with excitement ready to have more fun together.  I had the distinct feeling that everything was taken care of and all I had to do was show up.  When I left the bus, the driver confidently and professionally nodded at me as if to say, “I’ve got this.  I’ve got you”.  Ahhhhhhh. What a wonderful feeling! What a difference.

 I really attribute this 180 change to my increased faith and understanding in how to play this game of life and have fun. I’ve learned to rest in my knowing that in life everything always works out and even WOWS us if we let it.  I have gone from sitting in a dead car going nowhere to not just driving myself where I wanted to go….I had a very capable and overqualified driver!! I love it. And the only things that I have really changed are mind and my faith.

Thank you God for grace and favor in my life always in all ways!


dare to dream big!




 
 


My very favorite author of all time Florence Scovel Shinn says it is a good idea to tack on to the end of proclamations… "under grace and in a perfect way." This seven word addition addition can save you from any unwanted manifestations that could come to be. Remember the story in Eat, Pray, Love where the friend had been asking God to open his heart and ended up being rushed into open-heart surgery? Perhaps the tag-- under grace and in a perfect way-- would have taken care of this kind of literal snafu.

I think adding this tag line to your ask, prayer or proclamation overrides any “stuff” you may have in your subconscious that can throw a wrench in to what you are creating.  This is especially true if you are a person who invests more faith in the bad than in the good as a regular habit.  Since it is just a habit it can be changed, but in the mean time try the tag.  To be clear many people almost enjoy taking about the bad what ifs or awfulizing situations.  I have been guilty of indulging in complaining about work, the kids, the husband, family, etc… This expectation of bad gets you just that. It is true that you get what you expect.  Too many people think that they have to go over any possible bad outcome in advance so that they can be ready for anything.  If only we could all see that this kind of energy spent or invested in the bad basically invites all those possible scenarios into your life.  I firmly believe that staying focused on what you WANT to happen or come to you is the best way to insure the desired outcome.  By investing your faith in all good (which is basically God) you are making way for great things for yourself and others. Instead of trying to think of all the bad things that could possibly sneak up and wreak havoc, just add the tag—under grace and in a perfect way.  This covers anything you haven’t thought of and keeps you from having to think about HOW things are going to manifest.  You can just rest assured that it will manifest just as you request it—under grace and in a perfect way.

One of my favorite authors Mike Dooley calls this process of getting in your own way getting involved in the dreaded how’s.  His advice? Stay out of the dreaded how’s!! The perfect way to stay out the dreaded how’s is by adding “under grace an in a perfect way” to any creation request you are intentionally putting out. If you find yourself trying to figure out how you are going to get what you want or asked for answer your own question with this one-size-fits-all answer....Under Grace and in a Perfect Way!!

Thank you for the blessings of this day. For the ease, joy, abundance and inspiration shared by all…under grace and in a perfect way.


Grace means more than gifts. In grace something is transcended, once and for all overcome. Grace happens in spite of something; it happens in spite of separateness and alienation.
-Unknown-


 
 



I will never forget a most vivid dream I had two years ago.    In the dream I am trying to carry a large, very heavy bale of hay around.  I remember having a sense that I am supposed to take it quite a distance but can barely lift it.   In addition to being heavy and large the bale of hay is painfully scratchy and I remember feeling very hopeless and dreadful about the prospect of lifting it let alone carrying it somewhere.   Then it occurred to me…. I can fly!  What the hell am I doing carrying this thing anywhere????  I set the hay bale down and sit on top of it like I’m riding a horse and begin concentrating deeply on levitating.  Voila! The bale of hay lifts off.  Not only can I fly and will not have to carry or lift the hay bale, it can carry me flying carpet style anywhere I chose to go!! Exhilarating! 

What’s my take away from the dream? You can choose to see and put out that you are burdened in your life and believe things to be hopeless or choose to be favored, supported and gifted and live a blessed life.  It truly is a choice and it’s yours to make. At the beginning of the dream the hale bale symbolized everything I used to believe about life.  It's hard work,  impossible, miserable, painful, exhausting, daunting, and feels like a punishment to endure. That was the choice I was making unknowingly and that was my reality.  The reverse can be true and is now for me.  Life can be adventurous, exhilarating, easy, light, supported, fun, amazing, magical, abundant, etc... It's all in your mind set.  Change your mind, change your reality.  Pretty cool stuff!


 “Once you have tasted flight, you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been, and there you will always long to return.” 
― Leonardo da Vinci
 
 

I like to remind myself
When putting out desired outcomes for manifestation  to the universe the word just should be censored as if it is the f bomb on network TV.  This  I learned from personal experience. Even though my life has been very blessed and abundant we were hit very hard when the economy crashed.  Things became very scary in our financial life.  I came from a fearful place and put out…”Please God ( Universe)  I just want to be able to pay off our debt and cover our bills. “ I was not aware at the time that even in dire situations you can reach for the stars and ask for overflow.  So, because of this, as requested,  for a period of regrowth, we were  just able to pay the bills and debts with little left over for groceries and living expenses….Lesson learned! Now I know to ask on the tail of thanks as if I have already received and to ask for all that I want, not just.  Thank you God( Universe) for our favor in abundance that allows us to not only pay off all of our debts and cover our bills, but also have more than enough left over to spoil our kids, ourselves, live an abundant life, travel and still have money put away for retirement, our kids and a lavish lifestyle if  so inclined… an inexhaustible source of overflow! It definitely feels better and it definitely works!


Greedy? No way.  That’s the desired experience.  Ask. Receive. No justs allowed.

I used to always proclaim that my children were safe and protected before sending them out into the world. Seems like a good idea, right?  The just is implied here.  It’s nice to assert safety and protection, but it can also assume the necessity of it. In hindsight it was a little like wishing for food, shelter and clothing for myself.  Let's face it I could easily have all these things and be in a crappy situation.  I could be living under a bridge, eating food from a dumpster and wearing the same clothes every day. Check, check and check! I was obviously coming from my fears of something happening to my kids and didn't realize I could lose the fear and I ask for much more. Occasionally, my children would find themselves in hair raising, dangerous situations, but would come out unscathed or safe and protected.   No thank you.  How about proclaiming…My children are blessed and showered with God’s favor(Universal favor) ( which to me means advantage) in all areas of their lives.  As a visual I like to  steep my children in favor like little human tea bags infusing the very essence of their being with favor and grace. Favor and grace is many energetic levels above safe and protected. The basic need of safe and protected  is already taken care of and understood when you are in grace and favor. It also raises the experience bar bringing into alignment blessings of great serendipitous moments in life that make life  amazing and miraculous.  Feels great right? Imagine your child is going out with friends and will be driving until curfew.  by putting out that this child is safe and protected the child might run  out of gas in the middle of a busy road alone and hysterical and eventually, after you get up from bed and rush to the rescue, end up home safe and sound if not a little traumatized.  OR… Proclaim "thank you that this blessed child is steeped in grace and favor."  The child is out with friends having a great time and runs into a someone who is impressed with their confidence and people skills.  Maybe this person runs a worldwide company and offers your child an internship that comes with a full ride college scholarship and great career for life! They arrive home safe and sound (of course that is implied with grace and favor) but they are also over the moon and living a gifted life of advantage. Cool!


The 4 letter J bomb can sneak into different areas of  life particularly when the experience is adversity of any kind.  For example…

Please God Universe I just want my child to get through the school year to make it to the next level without  having to repeat anything.  Bang! That’s exactly what happens .  A year of the child just barely making it across the finish line limping all the way. This entire ask feels like I am down on my knees begging.  I know. This is one of my old familiars. I say get off your knees throw your hands over your head and proclaim what you really want.  Don't be afraid.

It may seem like too much of a stretch to say Thank you God (Universe) for this child’s success, accomplishment, and mastery in all areas of school. ( academic, social, athletics, leadership, confidence, etc…) But it isn’t!  You can't do anyone a favor by  wishing for them just anything.  It comes from a voice of fear and is lack  belief based.  Shoot for the stars even if it’s hard to wrap your head around.  Even the smallest amount of faith goes a long way.  Try it.

How many times have you looked at your planner or creeped up to a holiday season or big project with dread and fear and said.  I just want to make it through this week, project, season….whatever.  and what happens? You just barely make it.  It’s terrible like you expected it to be and you drag yourelf through it.  It’s survival thinking.  Why try to survive when you can thrive and be steeped in favor and grace? Censor the just.  Thank you God for your grace and favor over this event.  Thank you for peace, joy, fun, success, ease, boundless energy, creativity, serendipity and inspiration of the highest accord! Ask for the best case scenario.  Why not? You get to ask for what you want.  Who doesn’t want the best?  If in fact you get what you ask for then why not ask for it all?  Let the saying --be careful what you ask for--- take on  new meaning.  Be careful what you asking for (make sure you are asking for greatness)….you may ( will ) get it!

What about in the situation of a health scare or sickness?  I remember heaving over the toilet after my first big college party experience.  Please God ( Universe) I just want to stop throwing up.  If you let me feel better I will never drink alcohol again….Hmmm. As you can imagine it was a long night followed by a string of broken promises.   Please God I just want my lab tests to turn out ok.  I just want to get through these treatments… I just want to see my kids graduate.  Stop justing your outcome! Thank you God ( Universe) for perfect health!  For energy, vitality and well being.  For  longevity and perfection. For grace and favor in the physical.

People who are looking for a mate say… Please God I just don’t want to be alone.  What does that get you? A cat? No longer alone.  Your mom moving in?  Constant companion! Be specific with your ask. Be specific about the qualities you want in a mate.  You CAN attract the person you really want.  Don’t be afraid to get clear on what you really want and ask for it preceded by a thank you.  What happens to us  when we choose to settle? For so long I was programed to settle.  My entire childhood was spent hearing things like,,, well I want a lot of things, it doesn’t mean I’m going to get them … in response to my I want… or Don’t get your hopes up!  You aren’t the only person here.  You have to think of your siblings.  B to the S people!! Get clear about what you want and throw it out there.  Get good at being specific as well as general.  Instead of saying I want to be Oprah…. Think about why do your want to be Oprah?  I want to be successful, make an impact on the world, be loved by the masses,  help people while making a great life for my family.  I want to have a career that allows me to be filthy rich while at the same time enjoying everything I do to earn it.  Being Oprah means different things to different people.  Become clear on what it 
to you and put it our there on the tail of thanks.


“The biggest human temptation is to settle for too little.” 
― Thomas Merton